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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this relationships mumsnet helpful: Listen up, everybody. Today

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Initially as a friend but then things developed into a relationship. Everything has been pretty good up until about months ago when we had a bit of a fall out on holiday. After a tricky few days with some difficult interactions - arguments and such like, I decided to get us some tickets to a concert so we could try and lift out of this funk we have been in. At this point it is worth pointing out that our dynamics that causes issues is usually about if I say something or react a certain way almost always said or done without any harm or malice intended , she in turns reacts to that in a way that suggests my behaviour is wrong, unkind, unthoughtful, not loving, etc.

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But I just don't think it's for me. I'm I committed 3 years of my life to my first relationship where he turned mentally and physically abusive. We broke up in and I still feel the effects of his bullying to this day. I thought we were building a family and a life together but again he turned mentally abusive over the last couple of years and has left me broken. I am in an exhausting battle with him over our house and he is trying his best to force me and the children out. I know eventually things will be ok for me and the girls, and I will do it on my own two feet. But that makes me even more reluctant to ever even entertain another person into my life. What is the point of building another future for all to come tumbling down again and be back at square one. I honestly feel like it's a waste of time and frankly I can't be bothered with the clean up. It's never worth it in my experience. Is there anyone out there who has been long term single and happy this way?

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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Advise please. Im engaged but currently do not live with my OH but I go down every weekend or he comes up to me, we are supposed to live together again when his house is finished. I went through his messages on his phone and found he's being texting various women that he has befriended on Facebook or met in the pub and then befriended. He texts things like "really nice to meet you and spend time with you last night" and "Good morning x" and "really missed you in the pub last night" and then one with lips kissing.

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. My husband told me today that the unconditional love he had for me is finished and that he resents me now after years of problems that have not been resolved and he says the whole marriage ending up like this is all my fault. No romantic love is unconditional. It's over. Use violence? If you've been having issues for years, then yes, the feelings of love can stop. I wonder, has he always been a dick?

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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Do not take him back, you have done the right thing in leaving him. You were not put on this earth to be his skivvy and besides which he never appreciated you either. Would you want your kids to have been in a marriage like yours?. No you would not and you would want better for them. Keep rebuilding your life and finding out who you are. As I said previously I think you've done the right thing, you shouldn't have to live like that and it likely would get more difficult over time and your children would be stuck in it too. Was this relationship the first and longest you have had, considering the age you settled?

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Quite frankly you're abusing yourself at this point. I tried to calm her - she continued to scream at me and hit me again. Leave it years and then think about it again focus on yourself and your kids for now. See all. People used to actually say "poor you, it must be so hard being single". Sadly I had periods of questioning on the partner part, though never on childfree part. Start a new thread Flip thread Hide thread. I think that's why I'm even more put off ever settling back down with anybody else. For desktop support. You've posted on a thread where someone wants to talk about bits of advice that have helped people. That is what a single man would do.

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Hi everyone Just that really- what things have worked for you, whether they were bits of advice that you have gathered over the years or learnt and lived experiences that you believe has helped you in your relationships and navigating your relationships?

But I understand that wouldn't be for everyone. Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. What is stopping you from leaving right now? Not respectful. Please create an account To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. Stop being a martyr to someone who, blatantly, hates you. But a surprisingly large amount are not and generally speaking you are usually better off single. I try talking to him about it and sharing my feelings, but like I say he doesn't like to talk. The relationship with his now ex wife , which took 5 years after being together was odd at best. You seem young. I know eventually things will be ok for me and the girls, and I will do it on my own two feet. Instead - ask yourself where your compassion for yourself has gone?