The gentle art of verbal self-defense

Don't turn the other cheek and fume quietly; know what to say when someone throws out the snide backhanded "compliment," subtle insult, cruel criticism, or outright verbal blow.

Account Options Ieiet. The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-defense. Suzette Haden Elgin. Don't turn the other cheek and fume quietly; know what to say when someone throws out the snide backhanded "compliment," subtle insult, cruel criticism, or outright verbal blow. Inside these pages is an arsenal of tools for fending off that attack and neutralizing the harm spiteful words inflict. Learn to identify modes of verbal assault, such as laying blame, and to recognize when someone is about to launch a linguistic strike and the motivation behind it.

The gentle art of verbal self-defense

Right now, I wish there had been some outlines or summaries at the end of the book to be able to go back to it and review these 8 specific 'verbal attacks', in time. I'll have to make them myself to help retaining and recognizing. I sound lazy of course, but after getting through the other half of the book, about body language and all, I just want to put this book away for a while. Jump to ratings and reviews. Want to read. Buy on Amazon. Rate this book. Suzette Haden Elgin. L earn how to detect the subtle "put-downs", insults and other verbal blows that almost everyone uses—parents and children, husbands and wives, teachers and students, and friends and lovers. Most of us are under verbal attack everyday and often don't even realize it. Loading interface About the author. Suzette Haden Elgin 76 books followers. Suzette Haden Elgin was an American science fiction author. She founded the Science Fiction Poetry Association, and is considered an important figure in the field of science fiction constructed languages.

Right now, I wish there had been some outlines or summaries at the end of the book to be able to go back to it and review these 8 specific 'verbal attacks', in time.

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Right now, I wish there had been some outlines or summaries at the end of the book to be able to go back to it and review these 8 specific 'verbal attacks', in time. I'll have to make them myself to help retaining and recognizing. I sound lazy of course, but after getting through the other half of the book, about body language and all, I just want to put this book away for a while. Jump to ratings and reviews. Want to read.

The gentle art of verbal self-defense

Look Inside. For some employees, verbal abuse can be the everyday language of doing business. Defending yourself from these verbal abusers—calmly, professionally, and successfully—can be crucial to your on-the-job success. Nationally recognized linguistics expert and author Suzette Haden Elgin applies her acclaimed techniques for combating verbal attacks to common workplace situations. Powerful yet unthreatening, her proven strategies will help you recognize and defend yourself from verbal abuse—everything from casual obscenities and racist or sexist language to sarcasm, cutting jokes, and subtle put-downs.

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I'm serious! And I have had to learn to not expect to feel only two inches tall with some of them! For those who need help in this area, this one is a Winner! I am certain I did use the "If you really loved me Rena Sherwood. And some of the defense patterns seem overly clever and more likely to trigger further conflict than to defuse it. These days the book would be called "Recognizing and combating microaggressions and verbal abuse" and it might be a bestseller. This book has a direct approach to verbal attacks that can be appreciated, but it's definitely outdated. Out dated Published by Nicole , 3 years ago. Format: Hardcover. I first read this book in during a particular tumultuous time in my life. You want to stand up to them without losing their friendship or hurting their feelings.

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Spend less. It unfortunately does not have very good comebacks for "You're gay, gaywad! Right now, I wish there had been some outlines or summaries at the end of the book to be able to go back to it and review these 8 specific 'verbal attacks', in time. You can use his condensed life's work to gain status, confidence, and mates by joining Power University. Computer : neutral. This isn't a handbook in how to overpower the verbally abusive, a practice which is undesirable in any event and can be harmful or even dangerous. The author's contempt for men aside, The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense is not about gently defending verbal attacks - it is about offensively 'countering' someone so you end up 'winning' the battle. She is not the only author of this subject though a very good one. Boring, not easy to read. Elgin is one of my favorite authors -- except for this book and its siblings. Carolina Liechtenstein. Elgin explains what the best tactic to take when someone has a temper tantrum, how to respond to someone's sensory modes: seeing, hearing feeling and how to frame a conflict into a non-attacking three part message. She is a supporter of feminist science fiction, saying "women need to realize that SF is the only genre of literature in which it's possible for a writer to explore the question of what this world would be like if you could get rid of [X], where [X] is filled in with any of the multitude of real world facts that constrain and oppress women. This remains the very best book ever written on the subject. Skimmed a fair amount of it, but I like it.